Life Tips Daily

Yesterday, I explored the idea of being yourself. Here are some ways to make it happen:

Define your truth
What do you believe in? What do you care about? What do you know to be true in your life or about life in general? Write these things out, either literally or in your head. Make sure you know what you believe in–this will allow you to make sure that you live your life according to those values and ideas you hold dear.

Don’t fear conflict
Dialogue in loud voices (some call this yelling or screaming) is not always bad and destructive. Conflict can be detrimental but it can also be good for the purposes of helping one set up their individual truth and clearing the air. Conflict has a way of bringing to light things that you thought were resolved or no longer relevant.

Don’t care (so much)
I’m not advocating you embrace your inner unfeeling robot but you need not always care so much about somebody else’s opinion. You may find as you try to do what you think is right, and follow your own rules and what seems right to you, you may meet people who disagree with you, or want to let you know what they think of what you’re doing. Try not to take every critique personally (and there will be critiques, especially if you’re going against the grain). Adopt the “I don’t care (so much) what others think” mentality. No matter what you do, people will always talk or have an opinion on how you can do it better so stop allowing these changeable opinions to rule you.

Do what you love
How can you be true to yourself if you are doing something you hate, or something you are actually opposed to? (Answer: you really can’t). Perhaps the alternative (homelessness) keeps you working at a job you detest, and you don’t see any release from this job in sight. If leaving an uncomfortable situation is not an option, consider adding something that you do enjoy doing to your life, so you have something to look forward to or to distract you from your unideal situation.

If you have a clear idea of what you want, and can afford to leave an unpleasant situation, do it! Moments of self doubt may occur but once you get into the new rhythm, things are usually better, despite being perhaps initially more stressful than the previous situation. You’ll derive a lot more pleasure from doing something you truly feel passionate about.
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Following one’s passion and being true to yourself is not easy and may require you to step out of your comfort zone and face fears that you’ve hidden from. Have you ever had to make a drastic change in your life to be true to you?

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