Real life dilemma - where did my friends go?
If you are somebody that had a small group of close friends in highschool, and kept to yourself in college or university, and lost touch with your highschool friends, it is very possible to find yourself in a situation where you are a university graduate and have no close friends. Sure, you have work colleagues, or former classmates or highschool friends that you could call up for coffee or to go shopping, but who do you call when you just want to talk? Who do you turn to when you want to talk to someone who knows your history?
Siblings and parents might be your only bet.
Today’s question is simple: If you are a shy person who finds themself friendless, how do you go about making new friends? My instinctive reply is to suggest volunteering or going back to school (to pursue a new degree/diploma) as a way of meeting new people who hopefully share similar interests, or going online to meet people who share similar interests, but unfortunately the latter option is not one that my friend is willing to consider.
What would you suggest?
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July 2nd, 2007 at 7:40 am
Although shyness is tough thing to get over, it’s not impossible. Start by saying hello to people. Work your way up to turning those hellos into conversations. Work the conversations into acquaintances and then weed certain acquaintances into frendships.
People skills just take practice.
July 5th, 2007 at 9:33 am
I think the gap from college to “kids” is the hardest. I’ve met a few of my closest friends when our children were enrolled in the same schools.
In between college and kids I made (and still have) great friends in the workplace (never underestimate the power of going out for a drink after work) and a local ski club (shared interest).
I say do what you love and the friendships will follow.