Real life dilemma - always the fifth wheel
I have shared a variation of this dilemma before but I guess the fact that I’m sharing it again is proof that it bothers me.
Being of a romantic disposition, my perpetually single status can be quite painful, and I can’t deny that finding myself constantly in the company of couples who are either married, newly married, engaged, dating, or newly dating is hard to bear. I look longingly at couples holding hands, sharing inside jokes, asking for one bill for the two of them and I feel like I’m missing out on something big, and I feel like there was a contest or race to find your mate and I missed the race; I didn’t even get the consolation prize!
So, my questions are: What should I do to get over myself? Am I justified in wanting to reduce the number of couple-full events I take part in? Do I need a new posse of single friends?
August 31st, 2007 at 9:30 am
Ugh, I definitely hear you on this one. I’m frequently bothered by this as well. When I go places and everyone else is coupled off. Like the wedding I’m going to, I’m the only member of the bridal party who not only does NOT have a significant other, I don’t even have a DATE. So everyone is going to be looking at the single girl thinking “I wonder what’s wrong with her?” Because my status as perpetually single is starting to become a bit of a long-standing joke.
People are generally pretty good about including me in things with them, even if they are a couple and I’m just me. I appreciate that but I can feel it when they are gazing at one another and would rather be cuddled up without me. Sigh.
I have no idea what the solution is, but this is something that is frequently on my mind as well. Sigh.
September 4th, 2007 at 8:13 pm
Happens all the time. I frequently find myself doing nothing on a Friday night, as the coupled up people are on dates or doing whatever it is that couples do. That’s why they invented the internet and tv.