How to shine online: qualities of a good online dating profile - Part III
Today, we’re going to look at being honest about who you are and what you want online. As mentioned before, a good (written) first impression is key: sure you have your unbelievably irresistible picture on display, but many people want some substance with their looks so you should be prepared to stun “on paper” too.
Although the enormous degree of annonymity possible on the internet might be tempting for some, if you’re looking for a lasting relationship, do your part and be honest. There is a difference between being honest and making your life into an open book; it’s possible to be honest without telling every last detail of your life. If you are asked something that you do not want to divulge, you can honestly say “I’m sorry but I’m not comfortable sharing that with you now/ever.” A general rule is if you think your answer will affect the person’s opinion or impression of you in an important way, it’s best to share it.
If you’re being honest, you should expect the same from people you deal with. One way to ensure you get what you want is to be clear about what you are looking for: if you are looking for a short term physical (only) relationship, do not advertise that you’re looking for something longterm, and vice versa. If you do, you’re responsible for the sorts of responses you get! If things change, that is fine, but don’t lead someone to think they are getting together with somebody who wants the same things they do, if in fact that isn’t the case.
One way that the internet is a lot easier on our egos than reality is you can scan dozens of profiles and reject them without being seen by the person, which is so much nicer than being in a club and seeing someone’s eyes scan over you and move quickly on to the next person.
So, be honest about who you are and what you value, and write a profile that gets across who you are and what you want accurately. Tomorrow we’ll look at the importance of injecting your profile with some personality.
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This is the third part of this series. Please see the following parts for more information:
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