Dealing with grief
When a family member or close friend dies, you may find yourself experiencing disbelief and grief simultaneously: even as you are absorbing the reality of the news, and reacting to it, it can be hard to imagine that somebody’s life is over. That they will never wake up again, feel the sunshine, send an email, argue with you.
Nobody can tell you how you should deal with grief and sorrow. Some people cry, some become extremely quiet and withdrawn. Others write about their sorrow, or are galvanized into action, and vow to never forget the death.
The best healer of sorrow is time, the one thing we cannot control. Although time passes, memories remain and with time these memories can be reviewed without triggering pain alone. We learn to accept the loss, although we may still feel the deep emotions associated with it.
Our family lost a cousin yesterday, a young man who was hardworking and God-fearing. Although I will never see him again, I wanted to let him know how I felt about him and I did here. However you decide to deal with grief, may it bring peace to you and your family.
July 23rd, 2007 at 3:21 pm
I’m so sorry for your loss, Jummy.
July 25th, 2007 at 6:58 am
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