Your friend’s cheating boyfriend

Your friend is dating a new guy, and has been for a few months. You have met him and thought he seemed nice from this first meeting.
However, you were recently out of town and while you were out of town you saw him making out with another woman. You are 100% sure that it was him. You are also certain that he did not see you.
Some questions:
- Would you tell your friend?
- Would you let him know that you saw him and tell him to confess to your friend?
- If you decided to tell your friend, how would you deal with a friend who is adamant that it was not her boyfriend, that you’re seeing things and trying to ruin her relationship out of jealously?
Let’s hear what you have to say!
If you’re curious about my answers, they’re below:
- Yes I would tell her. She may not want to hear it, of course, but I would feel obligated to let her know.
- Only if I knew him enough to get involved. If I knew that my friend would act following me telling her, I’d be more likely not to talk to him at all. I’d definitely give him the cold shoulder and be cool to him though.
- I’d be angry at first because hopefully through the course of our friendship I’ve shown myself to be a good friend but I’d hopefully realize that it’s her emotions speaking more than her, and bear it with grace (yeah right!).
September 28th, 2007 at 10:25 am
I’d absolutely tell my friend. They may be in denial at first, sure, but if the guy is cheating on her, she’ll find out eventually, and then our friendship can be restored.
December 12th, 2007 at 5:44 am
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